Some have wondered where the time for marriage fits into our picture. Between the exhaustion, the cries, the bottles and the, “Mommy, I have to go potty!” there are few moments left for husband and wife time. Intimacy is a valuable piece of our puzzle. Brian and I have found that time spent together is the foundation for our marriage and we place enough value on it to protect it.
Once the kids are all in bed (by 7:30) we are ready for the slow exhale that comes with a cup of coffee and a conversation. We are also date schedulers. A date once every two weeks is a must unless things get crazy. Then we bump it up to once a week. We need to be on the same page and life gets rough if we are pulling in different directions.
Brian and I see the marriage and the family as two of the important pillars in our life and we prioritize them over tasks and to-do lists.
Intimacy in marriage is vital. It brings into sync our hearts and minds which is required for the smooth running of our home. When we begin to get frustrated with each other it is an indication that we have neglected “us” and that we need to re-evaluate our time.
When our agendas align it creates structure for the kids and an environment of peace and productivity with time for relaxation and fun. Someone once told me, “It doesn’t matter how busy you are, you always make time for the things you prioritize.” Unfortunately time is finite and no one knows this better than parents. But just as a jar holds more when the big rocks are put in before the sand, so our life holds more when we give the most important things priority and allow the rest to fill in the cracks.